How to Help Young Children Deal with Bullying

Stuart J. Murphy
Stuart J. Murphy
9 Aug 16
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Bullying has now become a constant and destructive part of everyday life. Unfortunately, it can begin at a very young age and at school.

Try it out: Download a free sample lesson of Stuart J. Murphy’s I See I Learn at School

Bullying can take the form of anything from simple—though hurtful—name-calling to aggressive physical action. It can be first-hand, with one person directly bullying another, or indirect, through third-party gossip or online cyber-bullying.

According to Bullying in Early Childhood, an overview article by Kyle Snow, Ph.D., writing for NAEYC (National Association for the Education of Young Children), as many as 25% of young children having experienced bullying, either as the victim or the bully.

Young children need to learn to recognize bullying and develop strategies for stopping it. They need to learn how to protect themselves and how to empathize with and support friends who are being bullied.

Teaching young children how to deal with bullying is critically important, which is why I wrote the story “Freda Stops a Bully” for the I See I Learn series. Freda, one of the children in Miss Cathy’s class at Ready Set Pre-K, loves her new pink shoes. But when she wears them to school, a boy in another class makes fun of her and she feels awful.

Even when she doesn’t wear the shoes, he still calls her “Funny feet!” What can Freda do to make him stop?

Through a combination of storytelling and visual learning strategies, “Freda Stops a Bully” provides children with a series of strategies to deal with bullying:

Don’t listen
Walk away
Get help
Say stop

Teachers can encourage discussions about bullying, which is especially important when there is an incident at school, either in the classroom or on the playground.

Have children draw pictures about bullying to show how it feels to have been bullied. Send the drawings home with the children for further discussion with their families. Use puppets to act out the roles of victim, bully, bystanders. Show how the different strategies can be used to resolve the situation.

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Let’s all work together to stop bullying! —Stuart J. Murphy

* I See I Learn at School, a comprehensive early childhood program from Pearson Education, features Stuart J. Murphy’s I See I Learn books, along with teacher’s guides, videos, take-home activities and more!

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